Ephesians 4:26 (NIV)
Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.
We know we are created in the image of God, but many don’t realize our emotions are a part of God’s image imprinted within us. Women need to grow in their understanding of their emotions. And this isn’t easy, because many women aren’t prepared to handle the different emotions they feel at different stages of their lives.
As a woman experiences various emotions, she needs to feel loved and accepted so she can face these times positively. This is not only critical for her emotional health, but also for impacting her children with positive emotional identities so they will grow up to be mature adults. These emotions are a part of the image of God, and we should grow and mature when we experience them.
When we got married, Dennis and I were completely caught off guard by my emotions as we moved into a marriage relationship. I remember the first time I was angry with Dennis. I had never felt angry with him the entire time we dated, during our engagement or in the early days of our marriage. I honestly didn’t know what to do about my anger.
I remember thinking, What do I do? Where do I go? Dennis was pursuing me to solve our conflict, and I was so confused that I went into the bathroom, shut the door and thought, I can’t get out of here. I’m stuck. My emotions were telling me something was very wrong in this relationship.
I held the future of my marriage and my family in my hands. I decided my relationship, which was a covenant I’d made to God, was too important not to work it out. So after stewing for awhile, I got up out of that bathroom and Dennis and I, after some real communication, resolved the problem.
Dennis and I have found that God designed marriage as a covenant relationship where a man and woman can work through their emotions and glorify God in the process.
Ask the Holy Spirit to fill you, guide you and direct you in how you are to handle your emotions in your marriage and family relationships.
How are you in controlling your emotions when it comes to dealing with your mate or your children?