THE NATURE OF RELATIONSHIPS BASED UPON ATTRACTIONS AND REPULSIONS

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THE NATURE OF RELATIONSHIPS BASED UPON ATTRACTIONS AND REPULSIONS
written by Yogi Amrit Desai

When man meets a woman he makes an image of her from his viewpoint. The woman does the same thing, making an image of the man from her point of view. He then tries to make her fit into the image he has of her and she tries to make him fit into the image she has of him.

If he likes her physical features, he ignores the other aspects. If she likes his manly intelligence, outgoing happy man-ness, she ignores other aspects and adopts a persona.

Each person acts to accommodate and ignore the other aspects of personality, such as his stubborn nature or her emotional aspects. These aspects are taken positively, but this behavior is adopted to keep getting the part the other likes.

Of course they are lying to each other to get from each other what they are attracted to. The mask each one wears to get what they want begins to suffocate them once they get used to the part that attracted them.

By the law of repetition and growing familiarity the newness wears off and the mask becomes hard to maintain.

This happens in all relationships built on attraction and repulsion. (note: not just romantic relationships, but any and all interpersonal relations).

When one part of the man is very attractive to the woman, the part of him that would be repulsive in the future is masked out, and ignored by the same woman.

Attachment is blinding, it fails to see the repulsive part until attract begins to fade.

Once the mask falls, the attachments fall away, and the relationship becomes a source of unhappiness. When you donít get the response to what you adopted your mask for then your mask is no longer yielding your expected return, and then it begins to suffocate you, and the relationship ends.

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